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How To Communicate More Convincingly – Part 2

Issue 118 – We Talk About Ourselves 60% Of The Time

Introduction…This is Part 2 of the discussion “How To Communicate More Convincingly.”  We start where we last ended.

Communicate...Here are items 6 to 10 that will drastically improve our communications.

6.  Don’t equate our experience with others.  This does not build empathy and takes away their need to be heard.  We don’t know how they feel.  We all react differently to life’s challenges.  it’s more effective to listen and ask questions.

7.   Don’t repeat ourselves.  This is something I do to fill in blank space in the conversation. On average, we talk about ourselves 60% of the time.  (Source unknown)  That doesn’t leave us much time to communicate convincingly.

8.  Stay out of the weeds with too many details.  And avoid industry jargon.  Many may think they know what the jargon means,  but few listeners do.

9.  Listen.  Humans are not good listeners by nature.  How hard is it to get your children to listen?  We speak at 150 words per minute.  But, we think at 450 words per minute.  Listening takes practice.

10.  Be brief.  “A good conversation is like a miniskirt: short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject.”

In conclusion…The secret to communicating more convincingly starts with asking questions and listening to others.  None of the above items comes naturally, but they are worth mastering.  Work on one item at a time until you are ready to proceed to the next.

Source: Celeste Headlee Media

How To Communicate More Convincingly – Part 1

Issue 117 – We Talk About Ourselves 60% Of the Time 

When we talk, we are only repeating what we know.  But, if we listen, we may learn something.  Dali Lama

Introduction...On average, we talk about ourselves 60% of the time.  (Source unknown)  That doesn’t leave us much time to communicate convincingly.

Communicate…Here are five items that will drastically improve our communications.

  1. Don’t multitask.  Even if we are on a phone call, the listener can detect our distraction.  Our brains can focus only on one item at a time.  Trying to focus on two items, means we do two things poorly.
  2. Don’t pontificate.  Pontification sets us up as the preacher, talking down to others  Most people don’t want an education in a simple conversation.
  3. Ask open-ended questions.  The classic questions we can ask are;

Who?

What?

Where?

How?

Ask a question the other person or persons know a lot about.  What about your kids or grandkids do you love the most?  What attracted you to your line of work?

4.  Go with the flow of the conversation.  Join in where there is an opening.

5.  If you don’t know, say you will find the answer for them.  Everyone can smell and dislikes a poser.

In conclusion…Just employing one or two of these ideas, will help you communicate convincingly.

Source: Celeste Headlee Media